Fur Babies

A Very Special Kitty

I’ve always been a firm believer that the loss of a pet is something that should be acknowledged and treated with compassion. So many people are quick to say “it was just a cat” or “it was just a dog,” and from experience, these people have never owned a pet. I’m absolutely not saying it’s more important or heartbreaking than losing a relative or friend, but I’m saying people shouldn’t be so quick to dismiss it as irrelevant. On the subject of pet loss, which I know many of my lovely blogger friends have discussed in the past, I feel like today is a good day to share with you the story of Sooty. 2021 marked six years since he went up to the big Dreamies factory in the sky, and I still miss him every day. As you’ll soon come to discover, Sooty was more than “just a cat.”

A Very Special Kitty Pinterest graphic

You may think I’m being a bit over dramatic when I tell you that Sooty wasn’t actually my cat. He was my Mum’s cat, and he came into our lives when I was at university, so surprisingly, I didn’t see him much when he was a baby. My Mum picked him up in March 2011, and coming home to visit her for her birthday I got to have my very first cuddle with my new ‘brother.’ He was incredibly mischievous but he was gorgeous and one of the cutest balls of fluff you’d ever see. People have this whole thing about black cats, saying that they’re unlucky and unattractive, but they couldn’t be more wrong. Sooty was a beautiful boy, and he knew it. And I will tell you that we were not unlucky having him cross our paths. It was the exact opposite.

Baby Sooty

I used to look forward to my Sooty cuddles whenever I came home from university, so I was ecstatic when I moved back home for good in 2013. Every time I drove over to my Mum’s, Sooty would be sat on the drive waiting for me – it was like he knew my car. 

Sooty unfortunately had a few health problems in his lifetime. Mainly, allergies. He had a skin condition where he’d get very patchy and dry, and he’d keep itching it and cleaning himself almost until he bled. After numerous trips to the vets they discovered he was allergic to flea saliva, and that he also had OCD. What are the odds? So many people I’ve told have dismissed this, saying that cats don’t get OCD, but actually, it’s a thing.

Me holding Sooty and smiling

Most of the time, Sooty would be absolutely fine, but when he was stressed his OCD would get worse – he was almost like me in cat form. At the time Sooty was diagnosed with OCD, I hadn’t yet been given mine, but whenever I went over to my Mum’s, he’d be there. He’d wait for me on the drive, he’d appear at the back door, and he’d jump on my lap. At the time I thought it was just because he liked me fussing over him, but when I got my diagnosis a few years later (and after he’d left us), I began to think that maybe he knew all along. So many times would I rock up to my Mum’s in a state, and he would instantly be there giving me a cuddle. In particular, the months running up to my wedding which, sadly were the months before we lost him, I was especially bad. Every time I went to my Mum’s house in tears because something had happened to set me off, there he’d be.

Those who don’t own pets or who don’t like animals will probably dismiss this theory in a heartbeat, but I like to think that Sooty knew that we had something in common, and he was there for me when I needed him. They say cats can sense when you’re ill or upset, and I always like to think that Sooty could sense that I was struggling, just like I knew when he was. When he was stressed, you could instantly tell because he’d be compulsively cleaning himself or scratching, so you would just have to give him a few smooths and talk to him. When I was stressed or upset, he would be on my lap, purring away. Overall he was a very caring cat. My Mum at one point was really ill with what we later found out was chicken pox (which apparently is serious AF in adults), and for the entire 3 weeks she was in bed, he was by her side the whole time.

He was a very funny cat despite the fact he struggled with a few health problems. He would do literally anything for a few Dreamies, he once dived at the TV when there was a nature documentary about birds on, and he’d occasionally pee in the kitchen sink during the night because he didn’t want to go out. He was very friendly towards other cats in the neighbourhood, with two of his pals being Gizzy and Bailey, who he’d often be playing with in the garden. Not to mention, he would take a hilarious selfie.

Sooty sitting upright and looking straight into the camera

It was the evening of the 23rd July 2015 that we lost him. I remember getting a phone call from my Mum, who was absolutely distraught. Sooty had been hit by a car. I never saw him, but my Mum told me that he was not in a good way. They rushed him to the vets, but because the car had done so much damage, they advised that even with surgery and treatments, there was no chance he’d make a full recovery. He was clearly in pain so my Mum made the decision to have him put to sleep. She sat with him while the vet gave him the injection, and I was heartbroken that I wasn’t there to kiss him goodbye. Even though Sooty wasn’t my cat, he was part of our family. I had been looking forward to having him cuddle up with me the night before my wedding when I stayed at my Mum’s, but sadly, that never happened.

I still miss Sooty every day. I know Mum does too. He was the most lovely, squishy, funny cat and he was definitely taken too soon. He was there for me when I needed him, and I hope that I provided him with some comfort too. He was the most beautiful boy, and because of him, black cats will always have a special place in my heart.

My 21st birthday - I'm wearing a birthday tiara and there's balloons on the wall, and I'm holding Sooty and smiling
Sooty – 31st December 2010 – 23rd July 2015

12 thoughts on “A Very Special Kitty”

  1. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I’ve lost animals before, and humans more recently, and I can tell you that it feels exactly the same if not worse. They are our children, our friends, and our family. They are there when no one else is in a way no one else can be.
    Sooty was gorgeous and I have no doubt in my mind that he’s still with you, following you around and meowing looking cuddles. They never leave, not really.

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    1. Thank you so much Nyxie, and I’m sorry for your losses too ❤️ Them being there for us when no one else is is 100% true. I like to think he’s still with me, and he’s the reason black cats will have a special place in my heart 🖤 thank you for reading xxx

      Also I’m sorry if you had a notification that this comment got deleted! My phone is laggy and I accidentally clicked on “bin” instead of “like!” 🤦🏻‍♂️


  2. I’m sorry for your loss. Loosing a pet is so hard, it’s never just an animal. It part of the family. It does get easier with time and you are left with such happy memories. Thank you for sharing such a personal post

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  3. I’m sorry for your loss 😫 My dog is so much more than just a pet. I think you have to have owned a cat or a dog to understand just how much a part of your family they become ❤️ We just have to remind ourselves that we gave them the best possible home and a loving family and hopefully we’ll be reunited with them one day 🤞🏼🤞🏼xx

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    1. Thank you ❤️ completely agree, you don’t realise how special they are unless you’ve had a pet yourself. I love the idea of being reunited with all of your past fur babies, that definitely is my idea of heaven! Thank you for reading xxx

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  4. I am so sorry for your loss. Sooty sounds like he was such a lovely cat. Full of personality and quirks. He may not have been “yours,” but he obviously loved you and you were part of his family. The connection between you two and the OCD seems like you two were meant to find one another. To comfort each other when you both needed it. It’s such a beautiful thought, and I truly do believe that cats and other pets can tell when you’re upset. My old cat used to know when I was upset and now my new cat does too. Pets just know. And a pet cat is never “just a cat.” Your cat automatically becomes part of your family once you adopt it and I feel bad for the people who say that, because they’ve obviously never had that love of a pet before. \

    And you’re right, Sooty took the best selfies! Such a handsome fellow!

    Thank you for this beautiful and moving post. ❤

    Emily | https://www.thatweirdgirllife.com

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    1. Thank you for such a lovely comment Emily I genuinely welled up reading it! ❤️😘 Couldn’t agree more, they become part of the family instantly and they love you just as much as you love them. Thank you so much for reading ❤️ xx


  5. I’m impressed that Sooty managed to pee in the sink! That’s some serious skills.

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I think it’s a different type of grief but in some ways I think it can be worse because with loved pets very often one has to make the active decision to put them down in order to end suffering and that doesn’t happen with our loved humans. I’m not wanting to open a euthanasia debate here, I just remember the guilt I felt at having my pet duck put down when he was poorly in addition to missing my friend.

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    1. He had some very strange skills bless him 😂 thank you, and I know what you mean, that decision is an incredibly difficult one to make. While you want them not to be in pain anymore there’s still a part of you that wants to do everything you can to get them better. Sorry to hear about your duck too – the guilt on top of the grief is so horrible! Thank you for reading xxx

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