This was never a post I expected to write, but I guess a lot of us didn’t expect the events of the last 18+ months to happen, so maybe this sort of post is going to be more common than I expected. Anyway, WTF am I banging on about? If you’ve only just joined my blog, let me explain. Back when I first started out with Sassy Cat Lady, one of the first posts I wrote was my 30 Before 30. As these lists usually are, it’s pretty self explanatory. Towards the end of 2018, I wrote a list of 30 things I wanted to do before my 30th birthday. At the time of writing my 30 Before 30, I was 26, thinking I’d have a good four years to tick everything off. However, 26 year old me had no idea that 2020 would be shit on by Covid-19. As a result of us all essentially losing a year due to the pandemic, I’m sure there’s a lot of us re-evaluating our plans for the next few years. Of course, I don’t really have an excuse for the 2018-2019 period, other than the fact I’m a lazy bitch. However, there are certainly parts of my 30 Before 30 List that will have been delayed as a result of the Panny-D. So, the aim of this post is to take a realistic and reflective view on the 30 Before 30 list I wrote towards the end of 2018, and to see if we can make any tweaks to it. Of course, as per, it’ll be in my usual self deprecating way, so there will undoubtedly be plenty of banter along the journey.
30 Before 30 – Written in December 2018
1: Go to New York
Of course, at the time I originally wrote this list, like everyone else on the planet, I wasn’t expecting a global pandemic to descend the world into chaos. Back in 2018, I was genuinely toying with the idea of going to New York for my 30th, and if we weren’t still balls deep in this current situation, it would still be right at the top of my list. I would be willing to put aside my fear of long-haul flights and using an airplane toilet to have the New York experience. Unfortunately though, it’s not happening this year, and I can’t particularly see it happening next year either. So, this one will most definitely be put in the bin for the time being.
This was one I managed, getting my first one in April 2019, followed by another two later that year. I definitely want more but I’ve yet to decide what to have and where to have it. It will most definitely be Taylor Swift related though.
3: Learn to Play an Instrument
I can’t believe someone as impatient and stubborn as me thought this was doable. In early 2019, I bought a ukulele on Amazon, with every intention to learn to play it. After about a month of attempting to play the Lava song from that Pixar short, I lost my patience with it (classic me) and retired my ukulele to the spare room, ever convinced that it was another thing I failed at. While becoming a full on expert at playing is not going to be possible in the next year, I guess I could have a bash at learning a song. If there’s any music experts out there that know what the easiest Taylor Swift song to play on a uke would be, please slide into the DMs.
4: Find a Career That I Love
I feel this one was too generic. A career that I love would be either getting paid to cuddle kittens or drink gin. I think at the time, I was trying to find a polite way to say “Quit my current job.” After leaving a retail job that had chipped away at my mental health for years, I found a role that helped me discover my love of writing, and I’m incredibly grateful for that. However, the last couple of months especially, my mental health has started to deteriorate again.
Thankfully though, change is coming. I have a new job! I won’t go into detail just yet, as I still don’t have an official start date, but let’s just say I’m incredibly excited, and still a bit in shock that I actually got it.
Anyway, I feel we could maybe keep this on the list, but I’m going to tweak it to “Get a New Job.”
5: Run a 10k
I hate how I put this on the list. Because realistically, if I actually commit properly to running, it’s still doable. Which means I don’t really have an excuse. “But you said a few months ago you started running again!” I hear you cry. Yes. I have since stopped. Because I’m a dickhead.
There was nothing realistically stopping me from continuing with my Couch to 5k. It was a combination of me being lazy and being a delicate flower when it comes to the weather. If it looked even the tiniest bit like it was going to rain, poppet would not want to go for a run for fear of getting her phone wet.
6: Make and Decorate an Amazing Cake
Who the actual fuck was I kidding?! I have attempted over the years to make and decorate “amazing cakes” and they’ve all been shite.
Bless everyone who’s been a victim to them, they’ve been awfully sweet about it. But looking back, I can’t believe that my best friend, my husband and my mother still want me in their lives following these monstrosities. I feel there is no amazing cake I could ever make, and that’s not me tearing myself down, that’s me accepting that I’m a terrible baker.
Finally, another one to cross off! I went to Disneyland Paris with Lillie in 2019 and despite losing my shit at the amount of spoiled little dickhead kids on multiple occasions, it was still one of the best holidays I’ve ever had. I’ve never laughed so much in my life, I cried my eyes out watching the fireworks and it was all in the company of my best mate.
I was quite shocked that this happened generally, let alone during a pandemic. We had literally just signed a bunch of forms when the first lockdown hit, so it was all very up in the air whether or not things would actually work out. Fast forward to July, and we had a phone call saying that we’d completed. I OWN PROPERTY BITCHES.
9: Learn to Do the Splits
This was written when I was well into my Blogilates phase. That soon stopped when I started running again. Cassey Ho has multiple videos on teaching yourself to do the splits, and while I knew it would take forever, I didn’t expect it to be as painful as it was. However, with challenges like 30 Days to Splits on her site, I’m still tempted to keep this one on the list.
10: Decide on Fur Babies Versus Real Babies
I can’t believe at 26 I thought I’d have been able to make this decision by now. If anything, I’m now even more indecisive, and it’s genuinely something that chips away at my mental health day by day. I’ve actually written a blog post about it, but I’m genuinely too scared to post it because I don’t want to get lynched. If someone could flip a switch to either Yes or No in my brain, that would be fantastic.
11: Actually Put Together the Photo Albums I’ve Accumulated Over the Last Few Years
This is a tricky one – it’s without a doubt something that I could realistically do, but it’s highly dependent on my mood. I’ve attempted to do this before and I’ve just been hit with feelings of “YOUR LIFE WILL NEVER BE THAT GOOD EVER AGAIN” or rather, “THESE PEOPLE AREN’T IN YOUR LIFE ANYMORE SO WHY ARE YOU CELEBRATING THAT FRIENDSHIP” – it’s an incredibly painful and emotionally draining process. At the time, a lot of these things were my favourite memories, but now, I look back and feel sad because I don’t see these people anymore, nor the friendships have simply just run their course. So what do I do? Do I put the albums together and just appreciate the memories? Or do I filter through all of the photos and just put in the memories that involve the people I’m still friends with?! Help.
12: Get a New Car
I’m not entirely sure if this one will happen – I’d quite like a new car, but at the same time, Dory, my little blue Ford Ka is my pride and joy. If I can keep her for a bit longer, I will.
13: Get My Medication Reduced
Again, I wasn’t expecting a global pandemic confirming all of my contamination OCD fears when I wrote this list initially. In hindsight, this one is definitely a bit like pissing in the wind. While I’m not going to rule it out, I don’t particularly expect it to happen in the next year. The 100mg of Sertraline is one of the things that has kept me reasonably sane during the pandemic, so I’m not in a rush to give it up any time soon. I’d be open to reducing it in the future, but I’m certainly not setting myself any targets.
14: Go to See Wicked
I didn’t realise how expensive it was to go and see a musical. Lillie and I were looking at tickets to go and see a show at the Bristol Hippodrome and the prices were extortionate. I’m not saying that I don’t think it’ll happen, what I’m saying is that I’m a tight-fisted bitch that resents spending more than £30 on a ticket to a show. I’d still like to go and see Wicked, but I’m not sure if it’s coming to Bristol in the next year, and I’m also a lazy bitch that won’t venture any further than Bristol. I know, I bring this on myself.
15: Go to Bruges
Again, as much as I’d like this to be possible, I can’t see any travel-based aspirations being doable within the next year. This is definitely another one that will be binned off.
16: Make a Dessert From Scratch
I hate my past self for putting this down – because it’s something that’s definitely possible but at the time of writing this post, I genuinely cannot be arsed with it. I can tell you right now that if it even goes the tiniest bit wrong I will hate myself for days and emotionally beat the shit out myself for failing at something else. It doesn’t seem worth the effort.
17: Run a Half Marathon
Come on, at the moment it really doesn’t seem like the 10k is likely. I think we all know that I’m not going to be running a half marathon in the next 11 months.
18: Decorate an Entire House
Again, this feels too generic. I doubt in the next year we’ll get our entire house decorated, so maybe I should just stick to one room.
19: Drive on the Motorway
I am approaching the 10 year mark of passing my driving test this year. I still have yet to drive on the motorway. I guess this one is still doable, but the thought actually terrifies me.
20: Sing Karaoke While Actually Sober Enough to Not Sound Like a Dying Animal
I don’t think singing karaoke sober is going to be something that happens. It’s one of those things that doesn’t actually get brought out until people are well and truly shitfaced.
21: Go on An All Inclusive Holiday
Again, I think anything travel based probably needs to be removed.
22: Write a Book
WHY DID I THINK THIS WAS DOABLE? I can barely come up with twice weekly content ideas for my blog so how the fuck did I think writing an entire book would be possible? Absolute bellend.
23: Stay at Barnsley House Again
Barnsley House is a gorgeous hotel in the Cotswolds where we stayed just after we got married. We had an entire suite to ourselves that was one of the most Instagrammable places I’ve ever stayed in, and the food was incredible. We’ve talked about going there again but because it’s rather pricey it probably will be a 10 year anniversary type thing. Or maybe a 30th birthday stay? Who knows.
Finally, another one I’ve actually completed. FriendsFest, despite the queues, was a great day out and it’s definitely a must for any Friends fan.
25: Learn How to Do a Headstand
Again, this was picked from the Blogilates days. I’m not sure I’d be able to do it without breaking anything. On my person or otherwise.
26: Write a Blog and Actually Stick With It
I guess this is one I could tick off – 2021 is my third year of running Sassy Cat Lady, definitely a good 2 ½ years more than I thought I’d stick at it.
27: Give Blood
After I fainted while accompanying my friend who was giving blood, I wasn’t exactly filled with confidence in actually having it done myself. I’m genuinely scared of fainting, throwing up, or shitting myself. Or all three. Who knows. However, it’s something I want to do because as far as I know, I’m able to, and it’s a way you can save a life – all by lying down and then eating a couple of biscuits. I really want to grow some balls and do it.
28: Cook a Whole Meal From Scratch
I feel this is likely to go in a similar way to the dessert thing, but I feel with all of the bloody recipes I’ve saved on Pinterest I should at least have a go.
29: Visit the Freud Museum in Vienna
Fuck me, I was gagging to travel lots.
30: Go to Amsterdam
Ugh. Fuck you covid. Shitting on my overly optimistic travel plans.
Well, there you go. I think I have some work to do in terms of re-writing a vast portion of this list. Also, given that I’ve binned off a good chunk of this list, I’ll be needing some more suggestions. Hit me up if you’ve got any ideas!